Sophie's All Grown Up --- Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus

Who's Sophie, you ask? Well, she's my alter ego. Wait! Now before you go on thinking, "Woah...Lovely has Multiple Personality Disorder?", I'm just a normal person who happens to call her thinking brain by a girl's name which almost means wisdom. I'm not crazy; just because I have a healthy relationship with my head does not make me any less human than you who's reading my blog. :)

So, back to my title. Yes, indeed...my Sophie is all grown up. Gone are the days of her being ruled by emotions which clouded her reasoning skills. And boy am I sure relieved with all these changes that's going on with her. It was not an easy road at alllllll...but it was worth it. Every bit of information, every bit of clarity is worth all the pain and confusion we had to go through. Praise God! 

I don't really know if maturity really goes with age...or whether being 24 will do something inside your brain that would cause a spark to light that fuse and make you start thinking real deep about life and your purpose. Whatever made mine work though I attribute it all to God. I guess when you're ready to receive life's lessons, you will figure out things that were murky before. And when you ultimately acknowledge that everything has a season in time, you realize that things in this world need not be taken too seriously for all of these will just fade away. (If the words are somewhat familiar, they're from Ecclesiastes which is my most favorite book in the  Bible. And yes, I do read the Bible now! ;p) 

One of my passions has always been writing and this blog will be an avenue for me to share what God has given me. 

Today, I will talk about my discovery of a book we have heard about (often so) but never got the chance to read. I'm talking about John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". It gives an interesting take on the differences of men and women and believe me, it is a must-read, not only for those in relationships but even for the singles out there who'd just like to get an idea of how the opposite sex is wired. It's totally hilarious and attacks a serious and controversial issue in a really non-threatening manner. It will not only give you knowledge about your mate, it will also explain your own eccentricities as well (and boy do I have a lot of them...haha...).

The greatest lesson I learned from the book is that MEN AND WOMEN ARE JUST TOTALLY DIFFERENT. Period.

In Mars the primary need was TRUST, whereas in VENUS, the need to be CARED for was essential. Men are like RUBBERBANDS and will undergo cycles of wanting to go INSIDE their CAVES, not because they don't love their woman any less, but because they just HAVE to. And we, Venusians don't get this because in our planet, we are a 24/7 FOUNTAIN of LOVE. We want to talk about problems because it feels good talking about them, not that we're looking for an instant solution to them. Women are like WAVES; at our PEAKS we are so loving, determined, bubbly, confident, but when we have our LOWS, we become the needy, insecure, mistrusting and uncaring bitch who men really hate! (Maybe it's attributable to our hormones?) 

And that's where problems in relationships come in: Miscommunication. Men and women who do not understand that what the other person is exemplifying is just normal, will get confused, pick a fight even with just a simple thing, and will ultimately jeopardize the relationship. Believe me, this has happened to me and I had to go through hell and back because I took everything soooo seriously. Now that I know that there is more to life than nitpicking, I truthfully feel relieved and capable of loving again! ;) 

Plus, what I'm really psyched about after reading this book was that it led me to my most favorite Bible verse, something which I'm trying to live each day with my Saviour's help. This is from 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 --> ⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 

I believe that when we begin to accept that this other being is wholly different from us, we learn to be patient, to be forgiving, to trust and to love unconditionally. A lesson I have learned and will relearn for the rest of my life. 

They say, great things come from small packages. But in this case, it came from one ebook I downloaded over the internet (thank you person who uploaded this book). I hope you could go over this work and hopefully you'd find something in it that would be a blessing to you like it did mine.